Dating a borderline male
As someone who has been in a relationship with a borderline and conversed with self-aware borderlines (here on quora), I think it is very difficult.
Difficulty will of course depend on how self-aware the person in question is and how well they have learned to manage interpersonally.
When people pull away for any reason, that part of our illness goes into overdrive and this is where the disorder may get its bad name.
It’s well documented that we love to turn to a quick fix; drugs, alcohol, binge eating, any risk taking behaviour that fills us up for a second.
Personally, the only thing that gives me true happiness is other people, which is why BPD is a cruel illness – because most people who suffer from it are gregarious, true people lovers, but they struggle to maintain close relationships because of their illness.
Now, obviously living in each others’ pockets is neither healthy nor feasible, and sometimes the intensity of someone with BPD’s love can be too much at first.
Some people pull away for space, which is possibly the hardest thing for us to take.