Single guy dating single mother dating a married man with no children
I’m young and I want to have fun, out in the world, not be tied down to someone’s living room while her kid sleeps in the bedroom. I admire my friend for being a stand-up guy and taking care of his son, so my opinion of a woman doing the same … Also, her ex had issues with me being around his daughter because he was threatened by the relationship that was forming.
Also, my friend’s ex had a kid that always wanted to sleep in his mom’s bed and that would be a problem for me. I want all the perks that come with a grown-up relationship.” “A lot of my friends are divorced and one guy even has a kid after a one-night stand.
The idea that all single moms are dating with the exclusive goal of finding someone to marry us and alleviate some of the parenting burden and keep our kids from growing up in a Broken Home™ (*insert overly dramatic anguish face here*) is offensive, in addition to being laughably wrong in so many cases.
Single moms date for as many different reasons as people without kids, and are as likely or unlikely to be open to a serious relationship as anyone else.
Any woman who gets upset that you A) walk into the first date with a few assumptions about her life, or B) that those assumptions are wrong, is kinda of a d*ck and maybe you don't want to date her anyway.
But it is a good idea to ask questions more than you project assumptions.
Everyone is under the impression that the hardest thing about dating when you're a single mom is ultimately scheduling.
Here's are some things you can do, though, that us single moms would definitely appreciate if dating us is something you're trying to do: Anyone who doesn't have kids unavoidably has ideas about what life with a kid is like.I would just be really cautious about getting close to the kid, because if it didn’t work out, I’d feel bad if the kid got attached, then hurt.” “I think it would be a pain.My friend dated a single mom and she was always breaking plans because of childcare issues, or suggesting he just come over and watch a movie. Maybe she’s like my friend and had a baby after just dating someone. I dated a single mom who had a lot of issues with her ex and I found that I got sucked into a lot of drama.Especially in the early days of dating, talk to her about anything and everything else, just like you would anyone else, and let her show you how much she does (or doesn't) want her mom life to be a part of her dating life.This is good advice when dating anyone who is a human and, like humans do, sometimes needs to cancel or reschedule or is 10 minutes late.