When divorced parents start dating again
Parents often have unrealistic expectations that their new partners will instantly become part of a happy family unit.That almost certainly will take time (if it happens at all).In fact, the adult children might not completely understand their own reactions.The parent’s return to the dating world forces a role reversal.Here’s what parent and child should do—and not do—to protect their relationship during these emotionally difficult times…Parents often cannot understand why their adult children have a negative emotional response to the news that they are dating or in a new relationship.
This subtly reinforces the sense that your search for a new relationship does not invalidate the family unit of their youth. It is surprisingly common for parents to share details about their revitalized sex lives with their adult children when they return to the dating scene.
That difference in perspective virtually ensures that they will struggle to see eye to eye.
To reduce the odds that a new romantic relationship will damage your parent/child relationship…
So rather than dismiss your kids’ money concerns, you could reassure them that you are not splurging on extravagant gifts for this new partner…and that if you do someday remarry, you will get a prenup.
Or you could agree to work with an estate planner (or some other trusted financial adviser) to make sure that your money remains in your family.